I have not read Steve Harvey’s “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man”. No, ma’am, I have not. I do, however, have no reservations about reading it in future. It is always a good thing to broaden one’s horizons; to step out of one’s comfort zone for interest’s sake if not for constant learning. And so, please don’t hold me to ransom when I pick the book up to see for myself why women have been fussing for centuries when all we had to do was borrow our male counterparts’ medullas.
Feminism is defined as “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men.” We can thus assume that in thinking like men, we gain equality similar to none. Yes?
The punting of the phrase of acting like a lady, yet holding onto the male psyche has awakened the feminist within though I did not consider myself much of an ‘activist’ before… Me thinks, well, no time like the present to embark on such. Judging by the wide range of epiphanies gotten by those who have read the book, I reckon Mr. Harvey has coined the know-how of borrowing a man’s mind: For the greater good, no doubt.
Whether we can all function in a world of singular mindedness run on auto pilot through the eyes of a man is another story altogether. Heaven forbid, lest the female species finally fade into oblivion. I mean, are we trekking back to the Stone Age here? I do earnestly believe that Harvey was tired of hearing women moan and whimper about how they don’t “get men”, how they don’t “understand” them and not being able to find the “right” one…Hallelujah!
Now all we hear are those orgasmic a-ha! revelations for all those times you called his phone incessantly worried he may have “hurt” himself or some other self-defeating assumption, instead of admitting that he simply wishes not to speak to you.
So, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” was written in good faith. Perhaps now, we’ll see the numbers of imperfect relationships dwindle, huh? See, I’m all for reaching goals, for achievement and striving for excellence in every sphere of life. It has become likewise for a lot of women today who do wonders from within the comfort of their own skin, as full-fledged women.
According to the 2010 Grant Thornton International Business Report (IBR), South African women hold 28 percent of senior management positions. This is reported to be better than global average and it goes without saying that this is great news as far as transformation is concerned.
However, it is cause for worry if in order to succeed in-and fit into- male dominated spheres women need to copy them .The very notion of thinking like a man defeats every stride made towards the emancipation of women in their households, relationships, work and social lives.
It does nothing but suggest that women lose their essence of self in exchange for acceptance into the fray so-called man’s world. Nay, I say. My world does not revolve around that two legged creature, nor am I particularly preoccupied with finding (and keeping) that proverbial “Mr. Right”.
It is these intrinsic differences in how we react to situations, in how we solve problems as men and women, which make life interesting. Would life truly be worth living if we knew the exact content of another’s mind when there is still so much joy in discovering and learning about one another, not as predictable textbook excerpts? I will keep acting, and thinking like the lady I am, thank you!