Money makes the world go round. So the saying goes. Yes, money can buy one a few friends; it can even get one out of a pickle with the SAPS or the Metro Police. Never been popular with the ladies? Relax son, ‘nothing that a few millions can’t fix! As Mandla “the King Don father” Spikiri once sang, “Fak’ imali Uzobona!” Sadly, no amount of money can buy one class or style. It is one of those things that one either has or not.
I realized after two similar incidents my problem with individuals who have an acute deficiency of modesty. These are people who are prone to unnecessarily, and without much provocation, go on boasting sprees about their material possessions. These are also people who like to hear themselves talk and rubbing other people’s noses in how much their Jimmy Choos, Burberrys, Tom Fords, Breitlings, etc. cost.
Anyway, the first of the incidents referred to was a social media hook-up with a home-boy of mine, someone I met during my high school years. The reunion was filled with the relevant pleasantries and catching up; it was wonderful to hear that life was going well and his personal successes testimony of that.
Well, it was hunky-dory until the constant posting of photos showing high-end time pieces with a shameless exhibition of the cost. Then it was a Gucci sweater with the price tag still on (for effect). The last straw was when the guy candidly posted about the amount he spent on petrol in one week and “record” mileage during the same period (just in case we didn’t know; just in case we were curious about his out-of-this-world travelling habits). Thankfully, social media has its advantages…DELETE!
The second incident involves a TV reality series. I can only say that the actions of the groom on last week’s episode of Our Perfect Wedding left a foul taste in my mouth. Described by his gushing, er, bride as a well-heeled tenderpreneur; his good looks seemed to fade with every opportunity he used to remind his service providers, including wedding guests that he was paying for it all. “Play me that song; I want it at my wedding (I paid for it).” Is it not similar to someone taking you to a restaurant and treating the staff with disdain in an attempt to impress you? WTF?
I have no qualms with moneyed people, let alone how they choose to spend their money. They are well within their rights to spend their (I assume) hard earned capital however they wish to. However, I do have a problem with some in the “New Money” league regarding their apparent lack of money etiquette. One would have to go back into the history of previously disadvantaged groups to gain insight into the impact of poverty on people’s relationship with money.
The results vary, if you consider how inconsequential material possessions are to some wealthy individuals with humble backgrounds as opposed to the value they add to society. Individuals with an exaggerated sense of self-importance are especially off-putting: There is such tragedy in people acting like they have never smelled crisp bank notes; in behaviour that suggests that one had no idea they’d possess whatever material they have in their lifetime. What usually lies behind all the bravado is nothing more than insecurities and fledgling egos. Surely there is some growing up that needs to happen here?
Unfortunately, some of us could really care less how much you spent on your Moët, we’d much rather you sip on it quietly.